Silence is the way to go...sometimes

There are those who choose to waste time, energy, and spiritual lightness in superficial blabber, hatred, hurtful words...They could say it upfront or do the classic doble-cara. Either way, I just don't get it. Really. Sometimes, I really wonder what it is they get out of bashing others...More than the act being rather juvenile, the world already is cold, turning colder by the second, as it is...I don't understand why there still are souls who opt to view things with such limited, reductionary, exclusivist vision...Don't they feel the weight of such negative energy in their aging souls? Can't they feel it in their bones? I'm sure they're mature enough to be familiar with the concept of kharma...So what gives?

See, detractors will always be there. That's just how the world is. I remember my uncle telling me that conflict is, other than being inevitable, necessary if evolution, progress, advancement is to be welcomed...Otherwise, things will get stale, stagnant...Ultimately irrelevant perhaps. And I dearly subscribed to that thought. He's absolutely right.

Welcoming the concept of conflict, however, does not necessarily mean surrendering to thoughts of harsh retaliation. There are many lovely ways to address the many faces of conflict, I've learned (not the easy way though, I must admit). And by far, the best one in my book is...Keeping my silence. Humility.

I was raised in a family with the basic praxis of fighting for what I firmly believe is right, standing up for the good of many, and keeping the spirit intact whilst doing so. I grew up facing challenges a girl from a middle-class family is "expected" to encounter. To cut it short, kahit san ako ilagay, kahit anong hikahos pa ng sitwasyon, mabubuhay ako...I love the way I was raised. I did not understand it before, but I see everything clearly now...I used to envy my friends who had more than I. I used to cry when girls who had everything would call me "kawawa" 'coz I didn't have what they had...I kept quiet. In tears, yes, but silently.

As I grew older, of course things got tougher and tougher...I embraced every single trial that came my way. And there were times that I really wanted to give up. I was on the verge of letting the world go...I was ready...Until I woke up and stood up and fixed my life. And here I am. I'm very thankful, in fact, that I went through such times... Otherwise, I wouldn't be the woman I am now.

Looking back, I think most (if not all) of the instances that I survived negative moments in my life were those that I faced in humble silence...It takes time, but the way events in life turn are absolutely amazing...

A friend of mine called up yesterday. He told me stories...Of people, common friends...And it feels sad to hear such a tragic turn of events on their end...Call me bad, but I can't help but think...Kharma na kaya yun?

I remember one time, I was a guest performer...and I was introduced quite loosely. I didn't mind. Friends who know me well know that I'm not really into titles. Basta alam ko naman kung anong kaya kong gawin...But man, I expected better hosting skills from this young woman whom I believe has good education...I mean, isn't it basic knowledge to know how to properly introduce a speaker or a guest in a public function? That was disheartening to see. Well, mukhang sinadya nyang ganun ang intro sakin but I just let it go. I didn't wanna spoil my night, I felt good pa naman I had my good friends with me...So when I got onstage, I laughed it off and even threw a funny line. Tapos. And I went on and performed...Suma total, ang saya ng gabi ko, I enjoyed every single minute of it...Just as I always do.

Sometimes our detractors think we're dense and don't sense these gestures or lines that they throw at us with gusto. Me, I just shut up, smile it off sincerely, and live my life as I should - without harming anyone in any way. At the end of the day, I didn't waste my energy indulging in negative vibes. Happy parin ako. And I know that somehow, Mother Kharma is just there. I don't wish them ill at all, but if they're drawing it upon themselves what can I do?

Back to my friend who called...He says he resents this person, that person for being this or that. And I told him na hayaan nya nalang...Ganun sila eh. They choose to be like that so be it. Even if they throw bad lines and pull you down, just shrug it off. It's not worth any single bit of attention. And for what, only to ruin your good vibes? Kahit masakit na yung sinasabi nila, just let it go. Inside of you, you know the truth. Let them blabber. Let them have their bashing session as they enjoy it...It'll all prove to be insignificant anyway coz you know the truth.

Bottomline: May mata ang langit. Just keep going for what's best. Stick to thoughts that are well. Keep your life uncomplicated. And you'll see. Silence, in more ways than one, has its rewards.